She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:22-26 ESV
“Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders.” Sounds like an important man right? What makes him so well known? What does this have to do with having a noble character? I like Matthew Henry’s commentary on this, ” She adds to his reputation in the world (v.23): Her husband is known in the gates, known to have a good wife. By his wise counsels, and prudent management of affairs, it appears that he has a discreet companion in his bosom, by conversation with whom he improves himself. By his cheerful countenance and pleasant humor it appears that he has an agreeable wife at home; for many that have not have their tempers strangely soured by it. Nay, by his appearing clean and neat in his dress, every thing about him decent and handsome, yet not gaudy, one may know he has a good wife at home, that takes care of his clothes.” He is known by his character qualities, qualities that are brought out by the help-meet he has at home. He is known well because his wife supports him. ( If you want to read more on the role of a wife and how Proverbs 31 relates to that check out my post on that topic here!)She is a woman of noble character. What does it mean to be a woman of noble character?
A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Proverbs 12:4 NIV
Well first lets get into some things of what being a woman of noble character isn’t. No one wants to be a cancer to their husband, do they? The first thing a woman of noble character is not is lazy. A lazy woman won’t get anything done that’s described in Proverbs 31. A lazy woman puts her selfish desire to do nothing before her families needs. Secondly, a woman of noble character isn’t weak. I’m not talking about physical strength, not everyone can fix their physical abilities. What I’m talking about is emotional and spiritual weakness. To be emotionally and spiritually weak is to be afraid of what’s to come. The exact opposite of Proverbs 31:25. Lastly, a woman of noble character isn’t prideful. We can’t be one extreme or the other. Being lazy and weak or being haughty and prideful are not good for your husband nor are they good for yourself. Being prideful makes others not want to be around you. We should strive to fulfill Proverbs 31:26 every day and to be prideful is to fulfill the opposite.
But the seed on good soil stands for those with a noble and good heart, who hear the word, retain it, and by persevering produce a crop. Luke 8:15 NIV
So we discussed what a woman of noble character isn’t, but what characteristics does she have? Well she has a noble and good heart. That’s what we all want to strive for. That can only come from accepting the gospel as truth! Once we do that God can work through us and create in us the noble character we seek. A woman of noble character also carries herself with dignity and strength and has no fear when it comes to what’s before her. She is mentally and spiritually strong and gives all her fear and worry to God. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t have struggles, it just mean she knows who to give her struggles to! Noble character is also emphasized by having wisdom and speaking kind words. If we don’t speak with love and kindness then no one will want to listen to us. Even if we have something important to say, they won’t listen because no one wants to listen to someone with an unkind spirit. We must have the wisdom to know when to speak and when to listen; wisdom to know the difference between kind and unkind words.
A good character is the best tombstone.
Those who loved you and were helped by you
will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered.
Carve your name on hearts, not on marble. – Charles H. Spurgeon
“Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.” Charles Spurgeon is considered one the great heroes of our faith by many, and his words here are very true. A good and noble character will be remember long after the things of this world fade away. So how can we cultivate a noble character so that we, and those who are known by us, will be remembered with good thoughts and not bad ones? We must first and foremost accept the gospel as truth. Christ, fully man and fully God, died for ours sins on the cross and rose again 3 days later, conquering sin and death forever! Purchasing our right to be reconciled to God by His grace through faith! If you believe in this truth then you are saved and God will work in your heart to make you of noble character, honoring Him through your life. Secondly, we must practice speaking truth and love all of our days. When someone you don’t particularly like or someone who is unkind approaches you, what is your immediate reaction? God tells us to love our enemies, so our reaction should be to show them kindness and love. When you encounter someone you aren’t a fan of trying saying hi and genuinely asking them how they are doing. You never know when showing this simple step of kindness can win an unkind soul to Jesus! Last but not least, we must lay down our fears before the Lord. A woman of noble character doesn’t cower away and hide from the unknowns of this life. She stands boldly and laughs at the days before her. She knows who her enemy is, but more importantly she knows who her God is! Rest in this truth, He has already won the battle!
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
“Seek justice, love mercy, walk humbly with your God.” If you are like me then you just sang that last sentence! I can’t get enough of that song! Possibly because it speaks scripture so plainly. To be of noble character we must act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with God. So I encourage you friends to seek to be of noble character. Live out the life God has called you to. A life of justice, mercy, humility, but most of all love!
After that last paragraph I’ve got Courageous by Casting Crowns, so it got me thinking…
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