Who can find a virtuous woman?
For her worth is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10 MEV
In Proverbs 31 we find an epilogue about the virtuous wife. As someone who prays to become a wife someday, this chapter of Proverbs has been the standard I hold myself to since I became a true follower of Christ. I believe any Christian woman who hopes to one day become a wife, or already is one, should at the very least be immersed in the truths held in this chapter. God has given us a road map for how to live, The Bible. Within that He has given us a picture of what we should strive for as a wife in Proverbs 31. I'm going to spend the next few weeks going through verses 10-31 of Proverbs 31, and expounding on the verses in a way to help us better understand their true meaning. Today we're starting with verse 10 and discussing what the bible says about true self-worth.
According to Webster's Learner's Dictionary, self-worth is defined as "a feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect; self-esteem". Self-worth was a struggle for me from a very young age. I would stand in front of the mirror at 5 years old and tell myself how ugly I thought I was. I based almost all of my self-worth on the way I looked, on outward appearances, and I did this until just a few years ago. What changed you ask? God rescued me out of my miry pit of self-loathing and set me on the rock that is Jesus Christ. When He did this I discovered through reading His Word that my self-worth isn't defined by my outward appearances or personality traits, like this world claims. It is defined by who God says I am. Now who does God say I am? There are way to many verses to list all of them but here are a few.
For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, so that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10 MEV
But now, O Lord, You are our Father;
we are the clay, and You are our potter;
and we all are the work of Your hand. Isaiah 64:8 MEV
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well. Psalm 139:14 ESV
According to God's word, we are fearfully and wonderfully made creations of Him. Created to do good works, so that we may bring honor and glory to Him. We are worth far more than rubies, more than any jewel that can be found in this world. When we become a part of God's family we are considered pure, righteous, and free from the stains of sin; virtuous. As virtuous women our worth is found not in who we are but in who He is.
How to Practice Biblical Self-Worth
Now i don't claim to know it all, I'm on this journey just like you, however I am going to share with you what has helped me rely on my true self-worth instead of what the world says about me.
- Place Scripture Around Your Home- Placing bible verses around your home that speak to you, that remind you of who you are in Christ, will serve as daily reminders that this world doesn't define who you are. My favorite verse, Proverbs 31:25, has become a mantra for me. My mother had a family member make a sign for me with this verse painted on it, and I look at it every morning. This verse reminds me who I am and Whose I am.
- Read The Bible- Now I know this one seems obvious, but hear me out. A lot of us read the bible because it feels like something God requires us to do. That's not true! God didn't create the Bible for some ritual we need to complete everyday. He created it as a guide to help us through this life. It was created for our good! We need to read it to help ourselves, not to check off a box that is on some list, that we created in our own minds, that we think God has for us. Staying in the Word has helped my self-worth tremendously. How else can you find scripture to motivate you in this life if you refuse to read it!
- Serve Others- Now you may be scratching your heads on this one, I get it, I was too when I first heard this idea. How can serving others help me find true self-worth? Actually, it helps more than you think. As Christian's we were created to do good works. God doesn't do anything without a reason and that reason for this involves more than the benefit the person were helping receives. Serving others does something in our hearts that is hard to explain, but it changes us. It takes the focus off self and puts it on others. When we give to others we feel a sense of accomplishment and our self-worth rises. This is no accident, this is God working in us. So get out there, get involved in a ministry at your church, feed the homeless, help out a single mom or widow, or simply speak life into a friend who is hurting. The more you serve the less you care about what others think and the more your self-worth rises
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7 NIV
Don't get it wrong, I still struggle with my self-worth from time to time, but it's not an everyday occurrence anymore. I've come to realize that when i'm struggling with my self-worth it's because i'm listening to much to what the world says about me and not what God says about me. When i realize this I tend to turn off the TV, turn off my computer and phone, and I open the Word of God. Every time I do this the thoughts of self-loathing and inadequacy disappear and are replaced with the truths that God speaks through his Word. I hope this post has encouraged you and helps you to realize that your self-worth isn't dependent on outward beauty or who the world says you are, but is dependent solely on who God says you are.
What do you do to encourage yourself and remind yourself of your true self-worth? Leave me a comment below and share what God leads you to!